“When the family has been brought into its natural order, the individual can leave it behind him while still feeling the strength of his family supporting him. Only when the connection to his family is acknowledged, and the person’s responsibility seen clearly and then distributed, can the individual feel unburdened and go about his personal affairs without anything from the past weighing him down or holding him back.”
What is a Family Constellation?
Family Constellations is a form of therapy. The method attempts to reveal a previously unrecognized family dynamic that spans across multiple generations in a given family, to resolve the damaging effects of that dynamic by encouraging the subject to accept the factual reality of the past. Family Constellations allow us to break patterns so that we can live healthier, happier, more fulfilled lives.
During a Family Constellation a person identifies an issue that they would like to explore. The technique involves family representation through the use of others. The way in which the client places the representatives begins to reveal the hidden family dynamics and the possible sources of entanglement. Representatives begin to take on the essential qualities of whom they are representing. The representatives are instructed by a facilitator to act on the emotions (including fears and wants), of each person involved. By doing this, light is shed on the dysfunctional aspects of the family unit. The family dynamic is accurately depicted and is oftentimes recognized by the members of the family for the first time. Each person is intrinsically linked by what is referred to as a morphogenic field. Using observation and insight, the facilitator repositions the representatives or objects to discover an arrangement of the family members that releases the entanglement, restores order, and allows the client to take their rightful place in their family system.
Family constellations provide us with a moment of insight that allows us to choose a new life course free of entanglements and dysfunctional patterns.
Levels Family Constellations work on?
The Family Constellation process works on many levels simultaneously, going much deeper than counseling. The energy that Family Constellations work with is primarily Soul energy.
Intellectually – your interpretation of your issue may be different to what the constellation reveals.
Physically – in seeing the situation in real terms through the representatives. (Bodily sensations and shifts)
Emotionally – through the feelings of the representatives and yourself.
Soul – the natural inclinations and movements of the soul.
Unconscious – patterns being seen and felt.
What are Entanglements?
Present-day problems and difficulties may be influenced by traumas suffered in previous generations of the family, even if those affected now are unaware of the original event in the past. The relation between present and past problems that are not caused by direct personal experience are known as entanglements, said to occur when unresolved trauma has affected the family through an event such as murder, suicide, death of a mother in childbirth, miscarriage, abortion, stillbirth, early death of a family member, war, natural disaster or abuse.
Frequent issues explored in Family Constellations?
- Unexplained anxiety and depression
- Difficulty in love and relationships
- Unresolved physical issues
- Fear of success
- Impact of violence on the family
- Challenging relationships with parents
- Effects of traumatic events
- Problems in work environments
- Dealing with a difficult fate or illness
- Deep sadness not associated with actual life events
Effects of Family Constellations
“Acting in the service of our need to belong, conscience bonds us to the persons and groups necessary for our survival regardless of the conditions they set for our belonging”
Throughout your entire life, you maintain an emotional and energetic connection to your family, regardless of how physically distant you may be from them or any problems you may have experienced with them. Everyone belongs and has there rightful place within a family system, dead, still born, aborted or for whatever reason excluded. Each member of a family, whether adult or child, longs to feel significant and find their place within family construct. Through Constellation work, order is restored within the family construct. This method of enlightenment creates a powerful and moving experience. People who participate in this technique often find themselves unearthing surprisingly emotional reactions.