This, could be said, is based upon our opinion about something; for example how much we dislike a person or a place or event. Again, it also comes in varying degrees of intensity and is very rarely, if ever, thought of as harmful, because practically everybody participates in bad thinking to some or other extent. This is the very thing that makes the whole notion so misleading.
It is interesting to note, for example, how the word “hate” became part of our everyday language for even the smallest thing. It comes up everywhere. We often hear: don’t you just hate it when… something or other; or, I hate it when I can’t find parking if I am in a hurry. We hate certain food or someone’s way of dressing; essentially everything we dislike.
This term that is bandied about in this way, however, is still a part of a much greater concept of the expression of all humanly possible mental and emotional venom to another being, thing or situation.
People who hate ill-wish those to whom their hatred is directed. This propensity is often turned in upon themselves too; for example, it is commonly known that cancer is a superior form of self rejection. Other chronic conditions originate in similar modes of self hatred but may not be as terminal as cancer. Diabetes, for example, is a perceived loss of all sweetness in life.
If these two examples may be used to illustrate the effects of self-hatred, then surely it speaks for itself that such bad thoughts will arrive in some form or another with the intended subject, given enough time.
In families we often find sibling rivalry that became lifelong problems, not only for the particular participants, but for the wellbeing of the entire family. There are many people who have a propensity for depression and appalling self esteem because they have been told by a family member, over a long time, that they should never have been born, or is better off dead, or is particularly stupid, or something emotionally destructive.
In this apparent absence of love, this information is finally accepted as true by the sufferers of this kind of abuse, and believing it, think of themselves as less than others and they find it difficult to fit in.
Failing to gain the acceptance they long for, at times these individuals become reckless, criminals, or indulge in some sort of anti-social behavior as an eventual result.
Many kids grow up believing that they are not needed and in the way of their parents or other members of the family, for some reason or other. It is possibly true that they may have been accused of this and the result is equally hurtful.
Subsequently, they are ultimately ill-wishing themselves in effect by insisting that something is true even when it is not, and so create some unwanted, regrettable state of affairs in their lives that often, as we have seen, remain in place permanently.
Ill-wishing, therefore, is something that cannot be separated from bad thoughts. Hatred for a particular enemy is for many a full time occupation that often becomes so compelling that everything in general is compared to it.
They are known to talk about their enemy constantly, and of course, in a very bad way, and cannot get past how they were offended by him or her.
Admittedly, some of these offenses are of a very deplorable character, and that person could and should have known better than to do what they have done. There is, however, no accounting for the morals and ethics of many people in the world, and they don’t particularly mind the things they do as long as they can profit by it, in their opinion.
For instance, often there is a kind of very unlikable person who arrogantly and very cynically always seems to succeed no matter how unfairly. In confrontations, always without remorse or any form of apology. They always seem to come first in their dealings at the expense of others, always knowing what to do, and there is always some legal action or other available to them that protects them. If this is familiar, it is possible that you have had an incident with such a person.
Their outlook usually results in many people’s anger and bad thoughts being directed at them, the sheer weight of which tends to bring a lot of misfortune to bear on the miscreant.
After a lifetime of this kind of attitude, all the bad that had been wished upon them would have manifested in some sort of result. Sometimes we see that they ended up isolated and alone and became bitter people who feel resentful to life. Did they not get what they deserve?
It amazes me to see that they often think of themselves as the victims, and seldom have the insight and understanding to figure out that they are experiencing the direct result of their own sentiments and behavior over time.
How is it that this can happen, I have been asked. If someone is angry with me, why will it influence me at all?
One way to explain it is: it works because telepathy works. Telepathy happens in a moment and without much effort; for example, two or more persons think or say the same thing simultaneously. It is often seen between a husband and wife; or in an audience at a lecture when the same question is asked by more than one person. It also happens when we think of someone and at the same moment they call telephonically.
Why then would thoughts and emotions of hatred or rage not get through to an intended victim? There is a lot of power in such things, although they are not of a very uplifting character.
Most victims of ill-wishing do not suspect it, and yet, they experience it. They may have done nothing to provoke it and may simply be in a situation where they become affected by it; for example, to be employed in a position in a company where the previous employee may have been unfairly dismissed and a lot of bitterness and resentment became directed to the situation.
A common way in which the sufferers of this subsequent result express their troubles is that they feel and act out of character to themselves. After a description of their strange conduct they often end with: I am just not myself nowadays. Interestingly – then who is it?
Bad thoughts can induce behavior change in someone if there is a sufficient amount and intensity of it. It comes through the mind just like ordinary thought processes, but they are not our own; hence the out of character episodes. We see this trend with stress and negative energy build-up too.
Just like we unintentionally pick up trends of speech and action from a group, we also become influenced by the thoughts and emotions of others.
I find it interesting to ponder upon the lives of celebrities and idols. I wonder if there are any of them who in point of fact have their own, authentic way of thinking and being. What is the collective impact, in their lives, of all the adulation of their fans and of the coveting of a lifestyle just like theirs? What would be left of them if the public image and superficialities are stripped away?
There is very much more that can be said about bad thoughts and ill-wishing, as it is a vast subject; but for the moment let it suffice to say that if you do not like someone, be indifferent to them rather than hate them. Indifference requires no effort at all.